Where Lumos, DRI, Hope and Homes for Children and SOS Children’s Villages are? Simple, they’re trying to give children what they deserve – a family.
Let’s get this straight, when talking about Ukraine there’s most certainly a need for deinstutionalization. Ukraine has the “boarding school system” still in place, when being more exact in the preferred terminology than all these organizations with their (more) simple-minded way of just calling them all “orphanages”. A boarding school is not a place for any child to grow up.
As take a moment to realize that the organizations specifically note the amount of around 100 thousand children. Now compare this amount to adoptable children in Ukraine. From mind, I believe this number is around the 15 thousand. This would mean a total of 85% aren’t adoptable. And that’s where I would like you to remind you of the campaign videos of the previously named organizations, as their high percentages of “children in orphanages with living parents” aren’t incorrect, although there’s the important question if all of these children could be returned to their parents…
Let’s say 10% of the children couldn’t in Ukraine, a total of about 10 thousand children. That’s a lot, most certainly true. However, when the Ukrainian government would close the boarding school system completely, their parents could be put out of their positions as guardians and these children could possibly be put up for adoption.
Which would lead to another point, as you would increase the amount of adoptable children, which is already too high when there is even 1 adoptable child, as every child should have loving care, preferably of a family.
So, let me ask you something: are you aware that the majority of potential adoptive parents never get to adopt?
Most get rejected for all sorts of nonsensical reasons, going as simple as problems with the objectivity of a social worker. However, another reason is the huge list of medical conditions you’re officially not allowed to have as potential adoptive parent.
And what’s the response of even experts? To quote FamilyEducation about this,
“If you are rejected for health reasons, you might want to reapply to the agency or another agency in a year or two, with a letter from your physician describing your state of health and the prognosis.”
Most potential adoptive parents never will, even though many of these potential adoptive parents would have been perfect parents for children.
It happens to be something I talked about recently with my parents, and they actually pointed me to something important regarding all of this. Most governments will claim that the restrictions for adoptive parents are there for the safety of the children. Is that actually true? Of course not. The reality is that it’s possible to put a system in place which would ensure the safety of these children while allowing more potential adoptive parents to adopt. The real reason why that isn’t done is the same as for most things in life, money. Such system would require a lot of manpower, leading to a huge decrease in unemployment on the long term, but also leading to a huge amount a government will need to invest into it without any probable return. After all, they can’t ask potential parents to pay this, as already now the amount of money for the full adoption process of a child is in most countries higher than the costs for the full upbringing of a child from 0 to 18. Eventually the amount becomes unpayable, which it technically already is, hence the amount of trafficking happening from countries like Ukraine and Russia.
For the Ukrainian government the choice is spending a lot of money by doing what’s right for the children and potential carers, or do what costs less. The u-turn of the Ukrainian government shows the answer is the second, as always.
Also, let me talk about this from my personal perspective of being both an adoptee from Ukraine and having adopted 1 of my 2 boys out of Ukraine. I’ve never been positive about my own past, I wouldn’t change it but neither repeat it. However, I was still relatively positive for a long time. This has changed since adopting my second son, my son out of Ukraine. Saying he was broken is an understatement. Not broken by why he became orphaned, broken by the “care” after. He’s been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder and an intellectual disability (among some other health issues), and let’s say it as it is, the care of orphaned children with disabilities in Ukraine is horrible, shown to me by how he was improperly treated. If you want to understand, I would advice checking out the findings of Disability Rights International.
Ukraine has a lot of good things, but the care system for the disadvantaged Ukrainian children isn’t among them. It’s one of the worst parts of Ukraine, just like the overall lack in the protection of children and their rights in Ukraine.
Saying that the organizations want to throw children on the streets is a statement without truth behind it. They want to give the children what’s possible, a family. Sadly, that’s not what the Ukrainian government wants, as they are more busy about the economical side of it.
In terms of culture, Ukraine is very Western, meaning that the first importance is always their own. It’s why I’m more inspired by people from countries like Kazakhstan. Friends from Kazakhstan tell me that the care of children is part of their culture. Honestly, that’s what Ukraine needs, and I agree with the organizations that shutting down orphanages is the first step in it. But it does have to be stated that it’s only a first step, as I haven’t seen any of the organizations disagreeing with…