I have had a lot of comments over the previous years, regarding my blog posts here, but also at my social media posts.
This has been the number one reason for me to close the comments here at my blog, as, in all honesty, I got tired of repeating myself, time and time again.
One of the clearest comments that has come back many times, is how I could stand against institutionalization, while at the same time supporting orphanages.
The answer comes down to one important matter, terminology.
As I have kept repeating, though I have done wrong myself at some of my blog posts:
An orphanage takes care of orphans.
Orphans are children who have lost both parents through death, no other way is possible, as without the loss of both parents, you are officially not an orphan.
What a lot of people need to get clear, is that if we are talking about children who have been abandoned by their parents, which could be by non-forced abandonment, at which most anti-institutionalization campaign focus, which the words should say enough, it is chosen to leave the children, but also with forced-abandonment, like death, but actually more to the point, forced-institutionalization, we are talking about foundlings.
With the more precise forced-abandonment of the death of both parents, we are talking both orphans and foundlings, as in a simple way, an orphan only is a statement of a child who has lost both parents, while a foundling is a child who was abandoned by his/her/its biological parents..
In regards to this, an orphanage is only for orphans, orphanages shouldn’t fall under the anti-institutionalization campaigns, as the children who live at orphanages have no parents to return to.
Children’s homes are where foundlings are given a home, hence these being the actual target of the anti-institutionalization campaigns, though, at children’s homes it is possible for orphans to live.
It is important to note that I am supportive to anti-institutionalization campaigns, and supportive to orphanages, as they are officially 100% unrelated to each other.
Still, as I have previously already explained a lot of times, I am not 100% supportive to anti-institutionalization campaigns, which has to do with the lack of choice these campaigns give the children they supposedly want to help.
I would never have wanted to be returned to my biological parents, that is the only truth I could say, and while I was adopted, and have become an orphan, I feel strongly that every child should have that choice, as it’s the life of that child, not yours, whoever may be behind the campaigns, and whoever may want to make the choice of a child.